"truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones-Bob Marley.
worth suffering for."
I saw this quote and I fell in love with Bobby. I suppose seeing it written out like that is helping me organize exactly how I feel. My philosophy ever since that heart-breaking first love relationship has been "do not expect anything out of people. If you dont expect it you wont get let down. And if they happen to pull through for you, you will be just as excited if not more as if you had expected it."
But when you find a friend who seems to stick with you for the most part for years, you tend to start expecting good out of them. So when they let you down repeatedly, you must ask yourself the question of "is it worth suffering for?"
Its a tough question. Suffering hurts.
Last night I went to hang out with some new people. At a new house. Yes the boy who had invited me was extremely intoxicated, but I laughed at him. His friends however were sobering up. We all ended up sitting around and playing the "question game" which is where one person thinks of questions and everyone takes turns elaborating. Everyone was really honest and told things that have been bothering them or explained qualities they look for in a person. It was a nice change of pace.
The group I am used to would never be caught doing this. If I were to say "Hey guys, lets play the question game" they would pause and reply, "What? Lets take more shots!"
This is the difference between productive and unproductive I believe. This new group also inspired me to go to church this morning.
Maybe this is a new start..
Maybe I am being stitched back together...
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4 comments:
Well Kirby, I've noticed alot lately the friend thing too. I've dont alot of growing up in the past couple of years, and I realize that most everyone takes true friends for granted, as well as family. A true friend is someone willing to put your needs before theirs, and who has your best interest at heart.. not someone who thinks you're fun and wants to party with you. It's rare to find one, but once you do it's worth everything in the world to hold on to.
How refreshing it is to read that. I have heard from two people this week who sound like they have a pretty good idea of the level of friendship I'm looking for. Encouraging because it gives me hope that I can progress to that level with someone some day. I suppose my main focus for my blogs has been friendships because that is what consumes my thoughts lately. Hope dangles on a string for me, but at least it's dangling, thank God. I appreciate your encouragement, anonymous. : )
and another thing to think about.. although it is always important to have somebody there even if only to vent to, remember that because you're still a teenager as are the people around you, you're all still changing. not everybody notices the values of the blessings in front of them at the same time, you just so happened to notice sooner. This is the prime state of change. It's just a shame so many people slow down the change process by getting distracted by the things of youth that dont matter as much. If you continue going to church and relieve yourself in prayer, you'll find that God is a better friend than most give Him credit for.
God is a-whole-nother blog which I am eventually going to get to. Hope you keep reading. I love your advice.
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