So a few things I have learned since starting this blog:
1. Friends are not found. They are developed.
By this I mean, I am not going to meet someone I can automatically trust. Thats a given. If I am lucky I will meet someone who is dependable and frienship will progress quickly into a desirable high level. However, most likely It will take careful picking and sifting before I realize there is a friend there. And the trials and times when that friend is needed will help us develop into something beautiful.
2. Emotional intelligence plays a major role in friendship.
You can be the smartest person in the world and not be successful if you are emotionally unable to handle yourself. Read the book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman. I have barely started to read it and can get that much out of the first few pages.
Its hard to find friends when you are stuck in a sea of people who hit an invisible ceiling. They say they have best friends and just keep running into that glass without ever realizing it. The real friendship is not in their eyesight yet, and its quite a shame.
3. Don't be so selfish.
Selfishness is going to rid you of all close friends. If everyone would be compassionate and caring of others instead of themselves, everyone would have a real best friend. Teenagers are the worst at being selfish. I just know it would be best to find a friend who will be careful in choosing between their own needs and mine.
A quick question I have been consumed with lately:
What is it about people that make them OK with being nothing, doing nothing, thinking about nothing, aiming for absolutely nothing. I admit lately I have not been near as productive as the previous Kirby of earlier years, but I acknowledge it and I have been making accommodations to initiate a new circulation of events for my life.
Partying is an activity for us Echo boomers, but when I get right down to it, what is drinking and doing drugs?
Our brains are so complex, our neurons timeless. The great people of the past (the recognized ones anyway, I'm talking Einstein and Franklin)all were commended for their thought processes and intellectual accomplishments. It seemed almost encouraging to one another to seek answers to unsolved natural phenomena. In the twenty-first century, however, we are far from thought searching. Alcohol and drugs hinder the thought processes, literally disconnect the neurons and prevent them from communicating. Whats sick is why we experience this halt on thinking and how we keep abusing it. It snowballs into years of nonproductivity and nonintelligence (Keep in mind that a little social drinking in moderation is most likely not harmful, but binge drinking and habitual drinking could ruin any ones emotional development).
I realize not all people are stuck in this "do nothing" state of mind, but if this is you think about where you are headed for a change, and if this is not you, I commend you for your existence and I'm eager to meet you as an intellectual.
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3 comments:
1. I for the most part agree with you.. you don't just all of a sudden meet someone and become best friends forever, it takes alot of uphill effort. But some people do click better than with others.. this is the foundation of the journey of friendship.. I guess you would call this the lowest level. You can't control really what friendships will slowly progress levels, you can only play your part in being the kind of friend you would want to have.
2. Emotional intelligence plays a HUGE role. Maturity is a blessing, and once you've reached a certain level of it others at lower levels don't understand things the way you do, and it just hinders the friendship.
3. I think your third point is the most critical. Unselfish love is the rarest but most important love there is. It can be something as drastic as taking a bullet for that person, or as simple as eating the bologna even though you hate it, just because they took the time to make you a sandwhich.
I for one do not know how you found my blog or if I actually know you; however, I could have used your mentoring way before now. You obviously have some insight which is always helpful. Like I said keep reading. I may come across more problems where I need some legit. advice. Thanks.
You do know me, that's all I'll say.
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